They say you should count your blessings instead of praying for ridiculous things you don’t need, like a barn or a fancy diamond ring, but I don’t see how that helps you get stuff. Instead I like to make lists of everything I want in case God reads my blog.

Number One: I still don’t have a way to house and feed everyone on the planet. That was something I was sure I would have invented by now because in sixth grade I vowed to devote my entire life to redirecting all the money we spend on going to the moon to feeding people on earth. The truth is all I’ve done so far is complain about it. I’ve yet to so much as google “How to feed the entire world.” My guess is my invention is going to require many billions of dollars. So far I don’t even have one billion.

Number Two: I know this sounds far-fetched but deep down I believe I could be the one to solve global warming if some kind and patient scientist would just explain to me how earth works.  I realize I need to get more in touch with nature. And I plan to.  By going outside. I know nature is where all of life’s answers are hidden. That’s why I need an outdoor project, i.e., a certain miniature horse, whose name may or may not be Bubbles, that I know for a fact would look amazing wearing a flower crown on my front lawn. If, perchance, I did get Bubbles, I would spend more time outside, on the lawn, petting and dressing Bubbles, making her hats  and getting in touch with nature, which is, as previously mentioned, where the answers to all of life’s questions are hidden. So, in short. I really need Bubbles if I’m going to save the planet.

Number Three: A pink cake mixer.  It just seems like a cake mixer would make it much easier to make cakes.

Number Four: A neck lift. I think this one is self-explanatory.

Number Five: A sunnier disposition. I never smile unless something is so laugh out loud funny I fall to the floor convulsing and peeing.

Number Six: I would very much like lower cholesterol. I really feel the number I was given is terribly unfair, rude almost.

Number Seven: A flat stomach, even when seated.  I’ve seen these types of stomachs and they are really remarkable.

Number Eight: A new car. Mine has a hole in it.

Number Nine: A brow lift. I know I just asked for a neck lift but my neck has migrated so far away from my brow it’s almost like I’m asking for two different people.

Number Ten: A barn. . . for Bubbles.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Right before I fell asleep last night, I was thinking how happy I would be if reincarnation were a thing. I was hoping I might come back a little more responsible next time. The type of person who holds on to receipts and returns things on time instead of partially using them, crumpling them up and making them look dirty so I can throw them away without feeling guilty. I was also thinking how nice it would be if I came back really gorgeous next time, like drop-dead, people give you free stuff, gorgeous.

I guess it was the hope of reincarnation that lead to my dream last night. The one where I’m trying to return my own coffin in ABC carpet.

A salesperson is eagerly hovering.

I expect her to float around in slow motion like a ghost, but she’s just a normal person with normal legs and a face.

Most of the coffins are early Colonial in design. Most have a little chip or nick in the veneer. The poor selection surprises and disgusts me. I pretend to hide my disgust to emphasize it.

I admit I tend to overact to anything I don’t like but anyone would have been disappointed by the overwhelming ugliness. And then I spot some cute square tufted cushions in a pile, still neatly encased in plastic. They look newish, but they’re upholstered in a dusty rose silk damask, which instantly re-depresses me. In my dream I list all the colors that depress me out loud, as though I’m talking to a psychiatrist, and what they remind me of: Dusty Rose (a bridesmaid’s dress that was so tight on me I took it off in the car on the way home, while I was driving) Brown (stepfather’s NYC apartment who didn’t want me living with him), Teal (eye shadow color on the cover of my first book), Tan (a pair of corduroy pants my dad had that didn’t look good), and rust (the 70’s). I search for  better fabrics and prettier color options, but all they have is something that looks like my grandmother’s robe.

As the dream continues, it occurs to me that I’m not actually in ABC carpet, and that none of the coffins in the entire store have lids! This is excellent news because it’s the lids that I find so unappealing.

After a lot of browsing I find something that looks almost too good to be true.

“I think I’d like to get some pricing on these styles over here,” I say, pointing to a collection of coffins that look exactly like chairs.

“Chairs are very popular now,” the salesperson says, “So are these new round tables.”

“What goes around comes around,” I say, hoping I’m right.

“Are you looking for yourself or for someone else?” she asks.

“Myself. I’m actually here to make an exchange,” I say.

“You were unhappy with your original coffin choice?”

“I just feel like it’s not me anymore. And trust me,  I slept on it. ”

“Are you sleeping right now…or?” she asks me.

“I don’t know. Are you?”

“I’m not sure,” she says.

“If I bought this chair would I be able to return it?” I ask her.

“Yes, but…” she says.

“But what?”

“You’re gonna need your receipt.”

My daughter got married. I don’t recommend this.  Planning a wedding is a miserable ordeal. I say that because my daughter planned her own wedding and it was terrible to watch. At one point she asked me to do one little thing and I forgot to do it. It was just too much for me. The thing she asked me to do involved the phone and I’m terrible at talking. And then she asked me to do something that involved counting, so I messed that up too. I should tell you my daughter makes me very nervous. First of all, she’s much older than me, and secondly, she expects me to mess up. This comes from years of her being late to birthday parties because I got lost, years of me claiming important school papers were “stolen” aka “accidentally thrown in the garbage” and years of me letting her take the reins because she’s more responsible and more competent that I could ever pretend to be. 

Add that to the fact that this kid, who used to stand at the bottom of the steps yelling at the rest of the family to hurry up so she wouldn’t be late for school, this kid, who stays on the phone with me for hours because I sound “a little funny” was about to officially, in every sense of the word, belong to someone else, nearly killed us. No one can ever prepare you for that feeling that your baby isn’t really your baby anymore. Laugh all you want, but you wait.

In the end, the wedding was everything she envisioned. It took place on a romantic vineyard in Santa Ynez, California, with the most awe-inspiring trees, fields of lavender, climbing roses, little dreamy archways and two giant lawns. She ran down the aisle, danced barefoot, and had the time of her life.  I’ve never seen a happier, more carefree bride. Everything about the night was perfect. I’ll never forget Kim in her dress, the way Alex looked at Kim, the flowers, the food, the way everyone was hugging and dancing. Everything was just a dream, until Dan and I had to give a speech. 

We practiced it several hundred times beforehand, but how could we possibly prepare for the microphone going dead. Or the fact that we somehow printed out the speech with the same page twice. Or that my husband was holding the pages I was supposed to read and I was holding his. We kept switching microphones and pages and we were both sweating like we were being tortured. I was standing there repeating the same paragraphs over and over, stumbling over words like dream and journey which I chose to pronounce as dweamy and jurtels, all while yelling to be heard. At one point, I felt my skirt slipping off my body so I started reading as quickly as possible before it could plummet to the ground. My cousin recorded the whole thing on her phone and you can hear her in the background saying things like, “oh god,” and “somebody help them,” every time the mic went silent.    

Afterwards I sat down and had that overwhelming feeling that we may very well have ruined our daughter’s perfect wedding. It was that bad. I know it doesn’t seem like it, but I’m leaving out a lot of unfortunate details. As the days passed after the wedding, I would get flashbacks of the speech and try to imagine how we would do it better if only she would get divorced, remarry, and give us another crack at it. 

But then, a miracle happened. We got the pictures back. I could finally see my daughter’s face while we were giving our speech. It was impossible to see her when we were actually giving our speech because our faces were glued to our papers like we were being held hostage and forced to read a note we never would have written ourselves. 

My daughter must have known we were struggling, but you couldn’t see any trace of fear in her face that her parents were failing miserably. All I could see was her holding on to her husband and smiling, as if to say, “These insanely unprepared, bumbling fools are our parents.” and everything about that seemed to make her very happy, because even though she now belonged to someone else, nothing had changed.

Yesterday I spent the night in New York. I hadn’t been there in so long i wasn’t sure how i felt about it. it was almost like I was on a date with an old boyfriend.

I got in a cab to go to the flower market and I immediately sensed something was wrong with my driver. As soon as I got in the car he asked me to please wait a minute.

“I just have to take care of something,” he said.

Turns out he was checking his bank balance. On speaker. Apparently he had a thousand dollars in his account and I have to say I was happy for him.

“Okay Sweetheart, let’s go,” he said after he hung up.

He pulled out of his spot but he was going so slow I assumed someone was in front of us.
But no.

“I kind of have to get there before the flower market closes,” I said. “It closes very early.”

“We have time,” he said, his wheels rolling at a pace most people would use if they were pulling up to a red light.

“You know,” he said, “I don’t know what it is but ever since I turned 60 people really seem to love me. Like they adore me. I think it’s because I tell more jokes now.”

“Yeah, me too,” I said. “Can you go a tiny bit faster?”

“You should hear the laughs I get. I don’t know what it is with people,” he said.

“I think their expectations lower as we get older,” I said.

“That’s a good one, he said. You want to hear one of my jokes?”

“Sure,” I said. Looking out the window. Nothing was moving.

“Okay here’s one I told just the other day. What I said was, ‘I’m no Bradley Cooper but I’m gonna call him up and ask him if he wants to double date with me and wouldn’t it be funny if I ended up banging my date and he didn’t?’”

“What?” I said.

“That’s a good one right? You like that?”

“I’m not sure I understood the punch line,” I said.

“No, no I’m just saying, I don’t have as much money as him and I’m not a bad looking guy, don’t
get me wrong, but he’s a very, very good looking guy, like one of the best looking guys around, and he has a ton of money, so wouldn’t that be funny?”

“Yes, very,” I said.

“Here’s another joke, I don’t want to say anything bad about women but Kanye West is a good man. That I can tell you. For example he takes care of the baby. And she might be a whore for all we know.”

“Maybe it would be better not to call her a whore,” I suggested.

“But, it’s a good one, right? You like it? I tell that one all the time lately.”

By that point he was weaving in out of cars for no reason. He wasn’t making up for lost time, he was just annoying the other drivers and calling them names.

“You know anything about Bradley Cooper?” he asked me.

“Not really,” I said.

“Well, I do. For example, I know everything about him. He comes from a very good family. He
was raised right and he’s very good looking. People think he’s Jewish but he’s not Jewish.”

“I didn’t think he was Jewish,” I said.

“I’m kidding,” he said turning the wheel all the way to one side and then the other like a kid pretending to drive.

“Got me again,” I said.

“This is what I’m trying to tell you. The reason I get such big tips is because I tell jokes.”

And then we hit the car in front of us. But no one seemed to care. That’s how slow we were going. Anyone in their right mind could tell there wouldn’t be any damage.

“What a fucking loser!” he yelled, looking down at the seat. It occurred to me that he might be blind.

“You know why I’m so handsome?” he asked me.

“I have no idea.”

“It’s because I’m from New York. Get it?”

“Not really.”

“New Yorkers are ugly so I’m handsome here.”

“Ah, I see,” I said, catching up on my emails.

“For example I get a lot of women to sleep with me. I’m not saying I’m Bradley Cooper, but women like me. They always liked me, but I’m telling you since I turned sixty they love me. The other day I took a girl on a date. I’m not saying whether I had sex with her or not. I’m not the kind of guy that would tell but I’m just telling you what happened.”

“Okay,” I said. “I think I’ll get out here and walk the rest of the way if you don’t mind.”

“You sure?” he asked.

“Yeah, I’m sure.”

When the tip options came up on the screen, I thought about how hard he worked trying to entertain me and I gave him 30 percent just like he knew I would.

“Goodbye, New York,” I said as I got out of the car.

“Goodbye, Sweetheart.”

Sometimes you read a truly great book and feel compelled to talk about it with everyone you know. You need to share it so badly, you might even give your beautiful hardcover copy to a friend. Sometimes you compare yourself to the main character and wonder what they would do in situations that come up in your own life. The main character becomes your own little imaginary friend who occupies that part of your brain that you never show. The part that thinks. And then sometimes you read a truly great book, put it down, and say out loud, “What in the world just happened?” Such was the case with Mrs. March by Virginia Feito.

Mrs. March is, without question, a mind bender on all counts. It’s suspenseful, brilliant, deliciously tropey, and it’s about an uptight, unlikable heroine. What more do you need? When was the last time you were given permission not to like someone? I never get to do that. I especially never get to not like someone while laughing at her. That would be mean. But Ms. Feito encourages you to flat out hate her heroine as much as she dislikes herself. All of this is accomplished with the use of my favorite kind of writing, the kind that doesn’t pat itself on its own back with endlessly long descriptions of things like grass or the nape of some lady’s neck. Any adjectives aside from “green” or “long” should be tossed, if you ask me. Most words ruin most books, but not this one. I especially loved when Mrs. March put a question mark after the word Slut. It was such a slick move and she didn’t need a single word to do it.

I’m sure you’ll read it after reading my description of it and that’s my intention. Because, I have no idea what actually did and didn’t happen, nor how the damn thing ended. Can someone please read it and explain to me what Agatha March did? Seriously, Agatha March, what have you done?

Ahh Memorial Day, the day that truly marks the beginning of summer. So much to look forward to. The beach, the parties, the pink drinks, the unfortunate spray tans that wander off the skin. And of course the reemergence of the arms, particularly the part of the arm that’s very white and soft and just below the arm pit when your arms are hanging by your sides and above your arm pits when you lift your arms in the air. If you’re under forty you should leave the room. You don’t need to know what horror awaits you. You’re still walking around flinging your limbs to-and-fro without a care in the world. I see you there, reaching for things, saying, “hellooo!” to friends and sometimes accidentally to strangers, hailing cabs, pointing. It’s all fun and games until one day you’re looking in the mirror, happily blow drying your hair, or, in my case, dancing, and you see something so horrific, you are forced to lock the door and call your sister.

“Something terrible just happened,” you will say.

“Oh no, what did you do?” your sister will answer.

“I just lifted my arms in front of the mirror.”

“OH, I should have warned you. You shouldn’t do that.”

“You mean to say you know what I saw?”

“Of course I know.”

“Why didn’t you warn me?”

“I was hoping you still had a little more time or that you wouldn’t notice it.”

How could one not notice a whole pocket of skin that magically shrivels overnight and becomes a dangling pile of stretched out weird crumply lines.

“Who is responsible for this?!” you might hear yourself scream.

“It happens to everyone,” your sister will say right before you drop the phone so you can resume standing in front of the mirror trying a bunch of different waves. None of them will work except the salute.

From that point on, you will spend a lot of time trying to identify what your mangled underarm skin reminds you of. Sometimes it will be the underbelly of a whale, sometimes a pelican, and sometimes an old balloon. You’ll also try to sneak a peek at all of your friends’ under-upper-arm areas. You can do this by asking them questions and demanding they raise their hands before answering. At times you’ll find yourself having so much fun you’ll forget what happened to your arms. Other times you may randomly cry out, and a day will come when you try to iron yourself.

As much as you’ll want to hide that whole part of your body, you’ll also find yourself desperate to confide in people

about it. It’s that alarming.

“Did you see what happened here?” you’ll say over and over, to anyone really.

Nobody will admit they already saw it.

The good news is there are options to deal with the situation as it unfolds…and drops even further:

1) Have your arms removed. 

2)Wear long sleeves .

Or…

3)Accept yourself for how old you are and learn to love your new body. You earned every wrinkle. Think of them as lots and lots of tiny smiles all over your face and body. And the truth is you should be grateful that you even have arms. Maybe it’s time to stop worrying about every little imperfection and just be happy you’re alive, the sun is shining, and it’s Memorial Day!

I’m kidding. Wear long sleeves.

My daughter Kim is engaged! I’m trying not to make it all about me. So the first thing I did was try on my wedding dress. And then I started looking through my wedding photos. And then I estimated how many pounds I would have to lose to actually zip up the dress. Not that it matters, I’ll never wear the dress again. My guess is 12. And then I made my guest list.

I’m trying to keep it small, but how do you not invite everyone you know? What if I run into someone who wasn’t invited? I’ll have to lie and say we had to keep the wedding small and then I’ll have to photoshop all the photos, take all the people and food out and blacken out the faces of people who were invited who are close to the people we didn’t invite. I don’t know what I’m going to do. About my wedding.

And then there’s the issue of where to have the wedding. We could do it here at my house but then I’d have to build an addition in case it rains and people want to come inside. I’m just not sure that’s the best use of the wedding budget. Of course we could have it at a hotel but do I really want that kind of a wedding? Gosh, I don’t know. And what to do about my neck? It’s falling off again.

The real question here is do I have enough time to have plastic surgery and plan a wedding. It just seems like a lot.  I could ask Kim to elope but that seems cold. Maybe just a few nips and tucks and a diet. Or we could all elope! That might be fun. Dan and me on a beach somewhere, renewing our vows, me in my zipped up dress! It’s all coming together. But enough about Kim.

Years ago I had a neighbor who tried to convince me that human beings are plants. She was heavily into her vegan lifestyle and did yoga all the time. Even when she was just standing there talking to you about the weather, she was on one foot. She referred to everyone as either a tree, a flower, a weed or some other type of growth. When people saw her coming, they would typically run the other way.

I felt sorry for her, but I bumped into her years later and she seemed to be doing fine. Great actually.

“Still a plant?” I asked her.

“Oh yes,” she said. “I won’t be feeding for another few hours so I’m getting all of my energy from the sun until then.”

When my good friend Cindy recently suggested we try an all plant diet, naturally I was a little skeptical at first. The last thing I wanted was to turn into a plant person like my old neighbor, but I gave it some thought and decided it was probably the right way to eat. And the truth is I consider myself a vegetarian anyway, aside from all the chicken.

“What are the rules of the diet?” I asked her.

What followed was a very helpful list of what vegetables to buy, how to prepare them in mason jars so your fridge becomes a salad bar and how to make soups and sauces in a Vitamix. I ordered the blender and studied the diet food list. It seemed there were two food groups:

1)Vegetables 2)Hummus.

“How much hummus are we allowed?” I asked her.

“¼ cup,” she said.

“So you’re saying the diet is vegetables and ¼ cup hummus?”

“Yes, but you can have as many vegetables as you can eat and you can also have a cup of vegetable soup every day and a vegetable smoothie!” she explained.

“In addition to the vegetables and ¼ cup of hummus, we can have a cup of vegetable soup?” I confirmed.

“Correct. And a little fruit. But no oil. And no salt. The recipes that come with the diet plan are the best part.”

She was right. The recipes are the best part: There are recipes for vegetable sauces that can be poured onto vegetables, recipes for vegetable smoothies, recipes for vegetable dips and dressings, and of course you can always have raw, steamed, baked or roasted vegetables. Some of the recipes even have nuts and seeds.

After the second day, I didn’t feel any better. It may have been all the cups of nutritional yeast I consumed the day before when I ran out of things I was allowed to eat that day. I’d already had my cup of soup and salad with the ¼ cup of hummus and the smoothie that was mostly kale, and it was only 2pm. I had nowhere else to go but the yeast.

On the third day, I made a big pot of soup that I’d planned to portion out for the rest of the week, seeing as how you can only have a cup of soup a day and my pot is so big. What happened though was that I accidentally poured a tiny bit more than a cup into my bowl and thought that two cups was probably what she meant because that amount looked like an actual bowl of soup as opposed to what someone might leave over after eating a bowl of soup. And then it occurred to me that Cindy may have read the diet wrong and that it was more likely that unlimited soup was allowed with both lunch and dinner because vegetable soup is just vegetables and vegetable broth so technically I could have all the soup I could possibly eat.

I was amazed at how good and surprisingly confident I felt knowing I could do the diet if I was allowed unlimited soup. All I ever needed in life was something I could eat too much of. I didn’t think it would be vegetable soup, but I was still grateful. I boiled a big pot of vegetables in vegetable broth and blended and ate them. I did this three times in a row, trying to convince myself I was eating the way nature intended, hoping to get full. Three blenders filled with vegetable soup must have been the magic number.

As a side note: I don’t recommend doing this. Afterwards there were some issues.

On the fourth day, I was craving any kind of flavor other than dirt and started looking around the house for things to eat. I thought chewable Vitamins might be a good snack but the Sugar Bear gummies everyone eats to make their hair grow to the floor make my heart race and how much Vitamin D and Biotin can a person really chew. And then I realized that I could eat as much seasoning as I wanted! Another one of those moments when I knew I could do the diet without failing. I found a bottle of the Kirkland no salt seasoning Cindy called “life changing” and poured it directly into my mouth, and then spit it out in the garbage. That’s how vile seasoning without salt is.

On my fifth day, I decided to go off the diet but still keep my calories low by finding an alternative seasoning I could live with. I bought a bottle of “Everything but the Bagel” and poured a little into my palm and then licked it out of my hand. I did this several hundred times even though I know better than to lick my hands, plus there was tons of salt in it. The reason I ate the seasoning anyway was because I decided the no salt rule was a typo.

On the sixth day, I started to think and feel differently about myself. There was some kind of metamorphosis happening although I wasn’t quite sure what it was. My skin looked more olive and I felt like I was breathing differently. I glanced up at the sun, strangely attracted to its light. I was thirsty all the time and felt an overwhelming need to stretch while wondering how long I could live on broccoli and seasoning.

“Can I have a bite of your salmon?” I asked Dan.

“I thought you’re a vegan now,” he said.

“I was but I need something to absorb my breath. It’s loaded down with powdered garlic and onions.”

“Is that what that was? Your breath?”

“Yes, that was my breath and I’m going to keep it that way. My breath is the only thing left to eat. I’m existing off the fumes.”

I could smell myself talking and I suddenly understood why my vegan neighbor was always saying things that made people run away from her. She was so hungry and miserable, and her breath was so horrible, she was incapable of having a conversation. Her bizarre statements were her only way out.

“Why are you doing this to yourself?” Dan asked.

“Because I’m a plant.”

 

Everyone knows it’s wrong to judge a book by its cover. I especially feel it’s wrong because I wrote a book that has the worst book cover of all times. It’s so bad, I actually discourage people from reading it.

“You wrote a book?” people ask. “Oh my God, can I read it?”

“I’d say yes, of course, unfortunately it’s out of print, and I don’t have any extra copies. Oh well.”

The truth is I hide my extra copies of that book in the far corner of my basement. To be fair, all of our books are in the basement at the moment because we don’t have bookshelves yet. The reason we don’t have bookshelves is because there are almost no walls in this house, and I’m afraid if I build the bookshelf downstairs there will be a flood and I will lose all of my books.

Okay, that was a lie. I’m not afraid of floods.

The truth is I decorated this house to look like a flower shop so the entire thing is white. When we finally build bookshelves, they will most likely be white. Naturally, I can only put white books on a white bookshelf in an all white house.

Most of the books in our current collection are either beige, green, red, brown, rust or teal. These are my least favorite colors and that is the real reason our books live in the basement.

However, since Covid took us all hostage, I’ve begun to rebuild my book collection. The way I collect books for this house is I go to the book store disguised in a mask and hoodie, and look for something I’d like to read. When I find something, I slip off  its book jacket (when no one’s looking, obviously) to see if the actual book itself is black or white, which are the only two acceptable book colors for this particular house. If the book is any other color, it goes back on the table, and I go home to read it on my kindle.

I’m guessing you want to kick yourself right about now for not properly researching and accidentally buying so many ugly books, but the good news is you never have to make that mistake again, because I’ve already done all of the work for you! And I’m happy to share the color of every single book I’ve bought since Covid, plus I’ll even throw in a very short review of each book, if, in fact, I’ve finished it. I’ll also list the ones I read on my kindle if I think it’s something you might want to read.

So,  here we go. Here are the books I (mostly) read and judged during Covid, according to color:

The Most Fun We Ever Had by Claire Lombardo: White Binding! Definitely going on the future bookshelf. Unfortunately, this book got lost under my bed at one point so I never finished it. It may have been because it was extremely long.

All Adults Here by Emma Straub: Red spine, yellow cover. Not gonna make it on the shelf. I should have read it on my kindle but I must have bought it by accident. The writing is so tight and so good I could smell calamine lotion. I don’t believe Emma Straub ever mentioned what Astrid Strick smelled like, but that’s how well she writes. You can smell her characters a mile away. You should read this book along with all of her other books just to see how good they smell. Also, this book has a very cool secret in it. I’m dying to tell you what it is, but I can’t.

 The Shape of my Head: Oh, hold on, that’s not the name of a book. That’s my next blog post.

Want by Lynn Steger Strong: Pretty Powder Blue with White Lettering. Might make an exception for this beautiful sky blue book, which I fully intend to read.

Summer Longing by Jamie Brenner: Powder Blue binding with pink front and back cover. Not the right shade of pink and I haven’t finished it either.

My Year of Rest and Relaxation by Ottessa Moshfegh: Read on my kindle and nearly passed out. If you read this book, all you’ll want to do is take pills, go to sleep, wake up when this is all over, and write like whatever her name is. This book is next level, out of this world, pure genius. I made anyone I know, who enjoys sleeping as much as I do, read it. I’m thinking of buying it and wrapping it in white paper.

Bunny by Mona Awad: I read this one on my kindle too, and I’d just like to say, it blew my mind. If you read it, you will know that was a pun. This is a beyond brilliant, slightly deranged, work of art about pretty girls who like to blow up men. It would be good to have this book in a library. Too bad.

American Dirt by Jeanine Cummins: Reading on my Kindle as we speak. So far it’s making me feel spoiled and fat and scared. And very American. In a spoiled fat scared way. I should take a peek at this one in person too. Maybe I can make an exception.

Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens: Again, I read this on my kindle long after everyone else read it, but I loved, loved, loved this book so much I might buy it and put it on the white book shelf, even if it’s green like a swamp.

Such a Fun Age by Kiley Read: Read on my kindle. Best book of Covid. As soon as I started reading it, I knew I found the one. And then I discovered that Reese found it too. Good is good. I might have to buy this book some day.

The Best of Me by David Sedaris: Bright Yellow, will not allow it on the shelf unless something crazy happens. And that would only be because he’s my favorite author, next to J.D. Salinger. Speaking of which, my copy of The Catcher in the Rye is Red. (May allow it on the shelf due to my inability to move on from adolescence).

Unsheltered by Barbara Kingsolver: Beautiful lime green binding and white book. What a gem this author is. But I honestly can’t remember what this book was about.

Just Like You, Nick Hornby: Pink binding  Red front and back cover. Willing to make an exception and perhaps lay it flat. That’s how pretty it is, and I believe it could work with white. One of my favorite writers. I love when a writer is so good you can’t hear the words. Just the story. I wish I was Just Like You, Nick Hornby.

Touched by the Son by Carly Simon: Black book bought for me by my very smart friend who is a character in one of my books. Will definitely go on the shelf because, above all, I love Cindy Sinclair. I was also pleasantly surprised to learn that Carly Simon has all the same insecurities that I myself enjoy, which made me feel like a famous singer.

What Remains by Carole Radzwill: Another book given to me by Cindy. It’s black and white so it will definitely make it up there on the shelf. If you lived in the 70’s, are a fan of the Kennedys, or like watching the Housewives of New York, you will love this book.

Writers and Lovers by Lily King: Black with red lettering. May or may not make it on the shelf because of the lettering, but highly, highly recommend this beautifully written book about the decision to live a creative life, which is always sad.

Friends and Strangers by J. Courtney Sullivan: Red all over. The whole thing, red. For some reason I didn’t finish this book even though I was enjoying it. It has something to do with a babysitter who befriends her boss and her boss’s father-in-law for a cause. I will finish this and get back to you.

Grown Ups by Marian Keyes: Black front and back cover! Winner! Also I love Marian Keyes and everything she writes. This book is about families and secrets and you will love it. Did I mention she once gave me a blurb? Definitely going on the shelf.

No one asked for This by Cazzie David: Depressing little brainiac with a knack for registering exquisite details like her father Larry David (my make-believe boyfriend). I truly love her. I read this on my Kindle. I highly recommend this if you’re in a bad mood or would like to be in a bad mood for fun.

Beach Read by Emily Henry: Read on kindle. It’s about cute competition between two cute writers.

The Hating Game by Sally Thorne: Read on Kindle. Also about cute competition but this one takes place in an office and there’s a lot of almost sex before there’s actual sex, which is probably why it became a movie.

Playing with Matches by Hannah Orenstein: Again, so cute!  About a matchmaker who plays with her matches. You’ll see. I might buy it even though I already read it on my kindle because my gut tells me it’s black or white and will Match my decor as well as the title of this book matches what’s under its covers.

Angel by Elizabeth Taylor: Not that Elizabeth Taylor, but every writer needs to read this book so you can feel like an imposter and want to drown yourself in a river. I regret to say I read this on my Kindle because I would very much  like to have this book in my house.

Here’s to Us by Elin Helderbrand: Jackpot! Pure White book, definitely going on the shelf, but I’m still reading it and having trouble remembering who’s who. At this point I’m rethinking my whole decorating philosophy. Maybe I’ll even dig my own book out of the pile of garbage in my basement.

Educated by Tara Westover: I only peaked at this on my Kindle, but I saw enough to know I already love this book. It’s clearly reminiscent of A Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls. So I’m guessing in the end, our heroine will have gotten the education she so deserves and go on to write an incredible novel. I’m only guessing though, and I know I’m the last one to read this one, too, but it seems I had a lot of  very uneducated decorating to do.

 

 

 

 

Every couple has their bed time rituals. Some insist on having some type of sex every single night. Others need to actively cuddle for a few minutes before wrapping themselves up in their little couple cocoon. A lot of couples end up falling asleep watching TV, first one drifts off, then the other. And then there are the couples who often end up sleeping on the floor. Those people are drunks.

I don’t understand cuddlers. How do they fall asleep with someone else’s skin in the way?  I understand how important love is, but I prefer breathing. That’s why my husband and I are what some might call not cuddly. We tend to keep to ourselves in preparation for a long night of sleep. Our pre-sleep routine is more about “the spreading of the pillows” then spooning. “The spreading of the pillows” ritual began when we fled our New York City apartment during Covid and had to incorporate all of our apartment bedding into our beach house bedding, which left us with eleven pillows on our bed. One might think that’s excessive, but I actually know and love all eleven of my pillows. They all serve a purpose, each according to their weight and density, in the construction of the retaining wall I like to build between us. The purpose of the wall is two-fold. It provides protection from the outside world and it ensures that all pillows are easily accessible in case I change my mind about my original pillow choice in the middle of the night. There are two pillows in particular, both named Flatsy, that I love like family.  Dan mostly throws his across the room out of frustration that we have so many. I then get out of bed, collect them, and add them to my pile.

Once I’ve spread the pillows, we kind of ease our way over to our own sides of the bed. Actually it’s more like we escape to our respective night tables and cling to them as though we’re both afraid of being eaten by the alligator on the other side. So far apart are we in our quest for uninterrupted sleep that if one of our children happen to call while we’re getting ready for bed, and they want to speak to both of us, we have to go looking for the other person as though we’re trapped in a forest.

“Hold on, I know he’s here,” I’ll say.

“Wait. Where are you two?” they’ll ask.

“In bed. Why?”

In the morning, whoever gets up first reaches for the other one’s hand like they need to be rescued from a pit of quick sand, grateful the other one is still there, and even more grateful neither of us had to suffocate for love.